Resists against change
Why people resist change?
The biggest reason why people resist change is fear of the unknown. They will only change if they
feel that the risk of staying in the current state is greater than the risk of making change.
Or if past change initiatives were handled poorly or failed, there may be a lack of confidence that this
current improvement can be effectively implemented.
People may not have a clear picture of how the change looks and why it is implemented.
Reasons why people resist change and often do not take the path to lasting development and change
their lives, even when they are able to do so.
We say we want to change but do not take action.
Maybe you have good intentions, but you cannot reach your goals. Perhaps you have had a new
year’s promise that only after a couple of weeks it all goes down the drain. The reasons is that people
want joy and avoid pain. They will do more to avoid pain than to get pleasure. Emotional pain is
stronger than physical pain. Survival always strikes the desire.
By understanding these reasons, you can use them to change your failures to success.
Focus on joy and pain
The need to avoid pain is stronger than the need to feel pleasure, even if the pain will give you positive results. For example, you may have to go through a painful procedure to feel good, but you avoid it because you focus more on how painful it gets instead of the benefits.
It is the perception that governs people's decisions. Although they know intellectually what is true and real, their perceived ideas will lead them into decision making.
What this focus of pleasure and pain makes for decision making becomes even clearer when one feels that the feeling is gaining over the logic. Emotional pain will affect your decisions much more than your brain tells you.
The heart will override the mind because everyone wants to avoid heartache more than they want to avoid physical pain.
The ultimate emotional decision comes down to survival and avoids what is perceived as the worst pain of all - death. People are programmed to survive rather than thrive. Instead of building success, people are created to learn to survive and stay alive.
The key to making positive changes in your life and avoiding bad decisions is to learn what motivates you and to use it for your success.
We pretend that we don't really care in one way or another.
We assume the victim's role.
We use (or invent) obstacles to justify why the change is too difficult or not possible.
People are afraid to leave their security against the unknown. People long for security - even if it
keeps them back. The key here is to handle your fear by doing what scares you. The fear you do not
own will own you. And behind every fear there is a precious treasure.
No one wants to fail. We do not even take the first step to improve our health or deepen our working
conditions or realize a dream. I deeply believe that the biggest risk you can ever take is not to take
Many people have no faith. They are cynical. "This personal development does not work" Or "I'm too old to change". Cynicism stems from disappointment. Cynical people lost their faith. They tried and maybe failed before. Rather than staying in the game, recognizing that failure is the highway to success because every failure is learning, they shut down and adopt that attitude. It is their way of avoiding being hurt again.
The change is constant in life. People are comfortable and are looking for comfort, would like to remain the same, but you cannot stop the flow of constant change as you want it or not. Today's society is developing rapidly, new technologies and trends, new opportunities are emerging.
Although changes can be frightening because one enters an unknown land, this environment requires learning to adapt quickly to and accept change. Meeting change with resistance requires more energy from us than to follow the flow.
Resistance is a normal reaction. Then begin to overcome it by exploring:
Why do I feel this resistance?
What is it that makes me reluctant, am I afraid?
What am I afraid of?
What happens if I do the change and what happens if I don’t?
Why should I change?
Be specific and honest with yourself. Resistance is about what we can and cannot control. Focus on what you can control
(acceptance of change) and try to release what you can't control.
Change is a situation, like losing their job or a partner. Resistance occurs during the transition, a psychological process to accept that something ends, navigates in uncertainty and receives what is a new beginning.
Resistance derives from fear, and for many, fear is caused by change. For some, it may be fear of the unknown or repeat a negative experience. We use resistance as a way to protect ourselves, but it limits us and our experiences. Instead of looking at the limitations and risks that come with change, try to look at change as the thing that opens the door to new opportunities.
Staying in the past and denying change does not stop it.
All beliefs are choices and thoughts that we have created. For example, if you think the change is frightening or difficult, it will be. Start believing that change is something that is good for you.
For example, you can choose to believe change is simple, change is fun or change gives me amazing opportunities. When you choose your perspective, you can easily redirect your internal system around change.
It is normally human behavior to resist change. First, we must accept and appreciate that fact. This helps us to be open to working with the thoughts and beliefs we have about changes. These limiting beliefs need to be changed in order to stop facing change with resistance. Your feelings can help you identify what thoughts you have, and deal with the resistance you feel.
Understand them and you can then handle and overcome them. Because consciousness really precedes greatness.
When you accept change, release and free yourself from fear of the unknown, you begin to see your life as an exciting adventure.